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If women is false To lea how to build a healthy sexual relationship. (Black Leather Couch Tales) As soon as Chelsea went in them plopped on the couch and announced, I am so frustrated. ? Hello Chelsea? I said. Ignoring all my greeting, he continued, No, really, Coach, that's me. A few months earlier, Chelsea, successful, attractive and very fit thirty-something lawyer who was involved in a serious search for a good, long-term. It was in my office to explain how it has been difficult to find a man of similar values and goals of their busy lifestyle. I was encouraged to try online dating. I stressed that this is an effective way to get in touch with a large number of men who are their criteria as soon as possible, with minimal effort. ? Chelsea, please explain? I replied to her cue to skip the formalities and get to the point. ? I did, "he continued," I have my patte, followed your steps, went online and in my search with a new set of guidelines. I can tell you it worked! I found the right Guy. ? E? ? Now, Ben is a wonderful person. He? And all that I could have hoped. We have fun together and can be applied to almost everything. He? And my best friend. I waited again and didn? t rush into sex. He hesitated. I waited, that will continue. ? That? S, where the problem is, Coach. I don? T know what to do. As I said, are frustrated ... sex is not so good. E 'terrible, for all that conces our relationship is perfect. I can see, there are really a happy life together. Then, after a thoughtful pause,? I? M thinking maybe I should just fake it. Sex is better, right? Not? T is in order, it is wrong now? Chelsea is one of the many women? Faken it? to fool their partners into believing that if sex is not the case. Why so many women feel they have to pretend that sex, rather than have actually able to enjoy? Some women are not enough? T orgasms, and feel insecure about it. This is usually the result of growing with a sense of shame and guilt about sexuality. From very young age, girls are pretty clear messages that discourage the expression and / or the completion of this aspect of themselves. As a result, many women must lea that it is good to get in touch with their bodies on an intimate and lea how they are entered. Only then can true sexual enjoyment be experienced. Men contribute to this problem with their own insecurity and lack of a basic understanding of women as sexual function. Since so many men measure their very start? Masculinity? of their sex, was also determined that a female orgasm is a crucial factor in the so-called masculinity. The problem is that if a woman enough to worry about a man to be intimate with him, usually enough to worry about his ego to feel incredible pressure to think that he thoroughly enjoys sex with him. Some women experience the need to please a man? s ego report Faken orgasms? only the constant flying. Men should understand that every sexual encounter will not lead to her with an orgasm, and that is in order. Not with an orgasm does not mean that they do not have the experience enjoyable. Free of this pressure will become more relaxed and more receptive, thus leading to more orgasms! I know that most men would never admit it publicly, but many can benefit from leaing more about how to find women. It is probably a good idea to start with the idea that the only way a woman can be encouraged to emphasize is the way of sexual intercourse. In fact, only about 30% of women can achieve orgasm with the relationship alone. This leaves a staggering majority of women who have other forms of stimulation. I could go into great detail on this topic because it is truly in the heart of many of these problems. Chelsea? The problems roots elsewhere. Based on their own accounts, Chelsea, to which a strong emphasis on creating? perfect? Reports. He has and what a perfect match and Ben were. In the hope something can be so much fear and anxiety makes it impossible to relax. However, Chelsea? Attention was thus focused on how sex should be perfect, that their natural ability to enjoy the exquisite pleasures of intimacy was severely hampered. To Chelsea, any problem with this otherwise perfect relationship stigma from squelched by a quick solution: Fake orgasms. Problem solved. Forgetting that a long-term relationship should be based on a solid foundation. In his 1996 book, Contemporary Interpersonal Theory and Research, Donald Kiesler, which provides us with a behavior concordance model of research, which explains the Interpersonal Reflex Principle. This principle states that a large part of our interpersonal behavior is designed to achieve predictable responses from those with whom we interact. These actions set in motion a cycle where you? S behavior is constantly confirming, recognizing, validating and influencing the behavior of others. Sounds complicated, but it is not. In essence we are training people, what we like and do not? T as. A dog, for example, repeats good behavior rewarded. However, if you reward a dog, begging behavior as a side table, the dog will repeat this behavior and I pray always. To create an orgasm is to confirm to your partner have been good this was. This creates a positive feeling in your partner and are no longer the same. Unlike the dog, your training partner to perform this trick will not leave you begging for more. The attempt to break the vicious circle to confuse your partner creating doubt. Your partner will never lose the confidence and know when is confidence, it was pleasant or not? When this happens, the sex only worsen, and the tense relationship. ? To answer the question should women fake it? No! It is not fake. Problems, as we would not simply gone. The more it is no comparison and to deal with them, they become larger. Sexual dissatisfaction is a major cause of pairs division. The number one reason for sexual dissatisfaction is lack of communication. Waiver of notice and opt simply invalidated, only the gap between the two and ultimately destroy the relationship. It 'important that you have a level of communication with your partner that allows you to open and honest talk about sex. But how can you say what your partner for you? First, the rules among yourselves that sex talk is healthy, fun and in no way, in an offensive manner, then: Talk sex. Don? T fear of the pain of your partner? S ego by taking the time to teach them, what brings you more pleasure. Above all men are very excited and happy students in this area. Relax. It 'OK to ask, did you think? o? How does it feel? By all means, if you asked these questions, be honest with your answer? Yes, it feels good. o? I like when you play? e? It makes me really, if you do this. Do not ask after sex? Was good? I can tell you that nobody likes to be asked that question. File under the same category? I find fat in this? Talking about sex when you're not with sex. Ask questions and keep leaing more about each other. Tell all your imagination and be prepared to implement them within reason. Opening and maintaining these links, it is comfortable on the subject. The talks may also serve to build tension, how long foreplay. Buy books and explore together. Here is another striking feature. We want sex, sex and are bombarded with television, film and advertising. Oddly, few of us study anything. A man will invest exorbitant amount of time leaing the parts of an engine or store sports statistics, but spends zero time to know the female orgasm. Both women and men should take every opportunity to the students of the opposite sex together. Not only is it very sexy to lea together, you will also benefit from it greatly in the long term. If you are in a relationship that starts a new one, or are looking for one, know that ultimately communication is the key to building a healthy and enjoyable sex life together. We must eliminate this idea that is somehow wrong or shameful to talk openly about sex or that you can insult the other. I find it interesting that couples can be intimate with each other, but they feel uneasy about the intimacy. Then, talk, lea, teach and, above all, have fun!