Defense Training and rape woman Susan Cross ss Story Part 1

Defense Training and rape woman Susan Cross ss Story Part 1 The story of a woman who changed my life (part 1) I, like most men, has grown at a time, as the decades before that, on balance, believes that women who alleged rape were: 1 ) Never really raped at all. Instead, they became angry with her boyfriend or something similar ", for any reason, and is used as a weapon of" difficulties ". Or, worse yet, 2) "Ask" for the way they dress, speak, or submission. Regarding the first belief, I think that this can happen occasionally. However, you should be living in a cultural vaccuum to believe that this is why one of the six years that someone tells you that she was "touched and now it hurts," or the sister who was tortured and he wound reported that it was sexually assaulted by a seventeen years. And the second conviction? Imagine the power thief sitting in court and saying: "Your honor, honestly, I mean the way it was put on television showcase all sleak and shiny and a fine tube and all the pictures - I mean, let's honor just asking to be stolen. "Can you? One of these "things" that put me on the path I followed to become a police officer, bodyguard and auto protection of teachers, it is my inherent 'distrust' and rebellion against what they call conventional wisdom. I can not tell you how much this has been painful for me to listen to the police, lawyers, judges and even the so-called defense experts to express one or both of these beliefs. Especially in light of all the evidence available. However, one day several years ago, minding my work, I find myself in a McDonald's restaurant. While enjoying a meal with my wife and two children, I chose what sounded like a gospel presentation to another side of the table is seated. This, together with the obvious discomfort displayed by the faces and bodies of men and women who are the recipients of the message, get to speak more than casual attention. At that time, I was a federal police officer nearly six years of experience in the street under my belt, so that these disorders have been something that I, of course, and the instinctly tuned. What I found when I looked at was a small woman, about twenty years in its end, but not more than thirty years, speaking with a couple of the following table. The look on the face of women has been nothing less than passion, and his tone was very direct - almost in panic. But not for himself, for the companion of man. What I heard next, forever changed the way I want to talk about issues of rape of women and self-defense. You see, this woman, call her Susan, had been the victim of rape. When I met her, Susan had recovered significantly from what is described today as post traumatic stress - mental and emotional trauma, after what began as an attack on your body. Unlike most victims of rape, however, Susan has taken upon himself to tell every woman - or man and man connected with it - its history, the lessons we have leaed above all to lea to protect themselves! Susan, in fact, was a crusade. He speaks to schools, groups, and yes, even the impromptu presentation which I was witness, in a McDonald's restaurant. And it was very good at it. Because Susan is personal. I think the reason for the discomfort in Susan Susan listeners that it was discussing a subject that is taboo, especially to strangers. I mean, in reality, the violation? That sex, right? Yes, it is a crime, but it is a sex offense - sex - not talking about that, right? But Susan did, and was passionate about it. Susan is passionate, because this incident, this type of attack that trivializes the routine and in violation of our homes, our schools, and yes, in our courts, has destroyed almost all the beliefs we had about the crime, If this happens and their ability to cope. It 'been watching and talking with the man when he entered the conversation. "You like?" He was asking for. "What?" "Sure," he said. "But it is my job to protect her." All the while his companion snuggled close to him, nodded in agreement, but avoiding abviously examine the role of Susan determined eyes. "But we can not protect you," was the reply Susan. "You can not protect her?" The same words in stabbing a man and his ego in his eyes told me that to address this sensitive issue was one and one that was not open for discussion. Because for him, and most men in general, the protection of a loved one is not a possibility, it is a fact. But he was unstoppable. "How long are you on a normal day? "Susan was the next question." Do you work? True? Why, "continued the little woman with fire in his heart, unless you're with her every day, all the time, can not even begin to say that." Then came Susan trajedy personal story in front of what was true, to be held throughout his life. All that had been taught: good girls do not have to worry about the rape, or just very promiscuous girls get raped, if you happen to give him what he wants and goes well, any conviction that might think that the support of their self-confidence that ' is' is not and would not be a target was destroyed and crushed by the reality that has never been taught to many women, never accepted. He told the couple that, before his brutal assault the aggressor, has also said that the conviction was heard. He told them that their responses were not unique. He heard from almost everyone in the whole world went away. But, as Susan discovered, these responses, in which only a false sense of security - security in its first stone and mortar, but sticks and glue. And if his listeners did nothing to correct those beliefs, would be in the same condition was left by her attacker - is used, confused, and feeling empty and lost, with nothing to hide. How was the story of Susan, we find that the violation of personal injury to heal very quickly in comparison with invisible scars, such as seeds waiting for the spring is suspended below the surface - hidden world - until now. Because, as Susan, who did not know about rape combined with what he did not know how the body reacts to it, caused him more pain and suffering in the long run compared to the same physical. Susan said that the listeners not resist her attacker. After all, he only wanted sex, right? It 's just on sex. Do not resist, consciously. Well, it just started to beat her. Susan demonstrates the history of the truth that rape is not a sexual crime is a crime of violence. So you've heard before. And 'the coerstone of any system for rape prevention and education today is a leader in programs for the rape crisis in most of the centers of places in the world. And while this is not the truth in all cases, in particular involving the date rape and rape of girls of school in which a man really wants is sex and are willing to do so by force, in the case of Susan's attacker did not want sex for the pleasure of sex. No, to him, sex was a weapon to dominate, humiliate and control of a woman, because its attacks against its true essence. A rapist, sex is an instrument which, when used in this way, a party who violates a woman's body and its center of saying that she believes that has full control. ************************************ In Part 2, you can get an idea of the effects of experience Susan their discoveries and the eventual realization that both allowed him to recover and reintegrate members of the family and other friends had alienated people in his life again. I hope that has been able to lea something from this story so far. To read the story of how Susan and I changed my approach to teaching self-defense for men and women, go here.