Women and self-esteem

Women and self-esteem   How about you? Are you proud of yourself? If these questions make you feel uncomfortable, or not answered, it is likely that you have a problem with self-esteem. Why is this? Why do so many of us basically we like? Why are we embarrassed "estimate" ourselves? "Before answering this question, we must first define self-esteem. Self-esteem comes from within. This means that the woman does not depend on someone else to do so feel good about himself because he knows that it is beautiful just the way it is. She is confident and aware of its strengths and capabilities. Wants to share with others. This does not mean it is useless. It is also aware of areas of work and growth. But it's ok, because he knows that is not perfect, and she was not to be. Fa She understands that we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Self-esteem is a core identity, which are essential to validate and our ability to experience joy. Once achieved, it comes from within. But it is assaulted or stunted from the outside, in a woman with low self-esteem does not feel good with herself because she has absorbed negative messages about women in the culture and / or working relationships. The reign of youth, beauty and thinness in our society condemns a woman to fail. Women's magazines, starting with the youth, the program will focus all their efforts on their appearance. Many girls lea, by 12 years, already in decline enjoyable activities in favor of the beauty treadmill leading to nothing. They become fanatical about diets. They munch, like rabbits, on leaves without salad dressing, jog in ice storms, and swear that you love! Ads abound for cosmetic surgery, we call a "repair" our aging bodies, as if the natural process of aging were an accident or illness. But with all these efforts, do not feel well enough. As you can? Magazine models are airbrushed to perfection, and anorexic. "Beautiful" movie stars are whipped into shape by personal trainer, and use surgery to create an ideal culture against nature. But young people can not last. This does not say. If women buy into this image of beauty, the best of an old woman can work for search is "good for her age," or, worse yet, "well preserved". Are well preserved mummies. Mummies are dead. Illicit cultural experiences with messages to join the attack self-esteem of women. Violence is pervasive and affects all socio-economic lines. It 'still sends the message that the victim is not applicable. Many, many women said that verbal abuse has hurt more than any physical act. As one woman said: "His words marked my soul." Women whose abuse began that children are more fragile sense of identity and self worth. Low self-esteem often results in depression and anxiety. Physical health suffers. Sometimes, women with this problem do not go for regular check-up, exercise, or personal days because I do not think it is worth the time. Relationships are affected as well. Their needs are not met by their partners, because they feel that do not deserve to be respected or are uncomfortable to ask. Their relations with the children may suffer if they are unable to discipline effectively, set limits, or require the respect they deserve. Worse still, low self-esteem of mother to daughter. The mother is what modeling is a woman. It is also the model for his son, a woman. In the workplace, women with low self-esteem tend to be self-devaluation, to minimize their performance, or let others take credit for their work. They never move. Finally, with friends, I can not say no. They end up doing favors that do not want to do, or have at any time. They end up going where they do not want to go with people who do not want to go with! A woman with low self-esteem has no control over his life. But this may change. These women can get help and emotional healing. You criticial to remember that no one deserves to be abused. If something happened to you, that does not mean that there is something wrong with you. The responsibility for the abuse is the person who chooses to get injured. If you are being abused, you need you and your children safefy before. If you think you are in danger, you can call your state hotline number of incidents of domestic violence. NJ Statewide DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE 1-800-572-7233 ... You can choose your own identity. You can discard the popular cultural image and replace it with something real. As I read somewhere once, "We are bound by our fate only as long as we accept the values that determine it. "Nobody is perfect, but all are deserving. Believe in yourself.