That with unconditional love

That with unconditional love   To tell the truth, I am a little 'disappointed with the term unconditional love, lately. Simply is not "natural." The phrase has been used for decades by psychologists, therapists, AA and all types of spiritual mind to describe how one should cope with impossible behavior. "The first principle underlying the concept is to help the person being abused to accept the situation and not have to live in a perpetual state of resentment towards their partner. You, as Codependent (ie one that is always male) are supposed to see your partner as "sick" and do not blame him for their actions. If we assume that love and care for adultery aggressor player, manic-depressive or alcoholic the same way that someone who has influenza. Husband is at home drunk? Sober with cups of black coffee and a dose of your eteally buing, unconditional love. Unfaithful boyfriend? That's OK, because she is the unconditional love that will last him forever. Girlfriends build your credit card with his new compulsive shopping? You will take care of bills because you have love for you is eteal and unconditional, and she said "I always love him, whatever ...." Those of 'us who were there know we can count only comfort us with the notion of unconditional love for all until the relationship gets too expensive, emotionally, socially and financially. It is often more serious, the kind of consequences we pay when someone is sick with influenza. "More recently, after speaking to a large number of customers, many of whom are still paying in one way or another to the irresponsible behavior of an adult, I began to conclude that when the person with the terrorism" or "personality disorder recently diagnosed" is in us is to give unconditional love. If we say no to the object or behavior, he or she can always tu around and go, but I thought you said your love, I was unconditional! "This puts us in the defense, because it implies that there are those who are unloving and Unlovable. I think the answer is "why not go and find someone who agrees to sign your co-BS! "" You are trained, AA probably snap back with "what you get for having expectations or preferences to me ... you know I'm sick! "I believe that love is conditional. One of these conditions is "trust." If you have an unconditional love, it is implied that it is not trust, especially if you are condemned to a life of love or "not any. "Love is a natural thing, like a flower, we should expect to flowering and its ok to be disappointed if it is not. The kind of love is to grow and multiply the compound, and not destroy. The next time you fall in love, the terms and conditions of supply and demand, which has a 200% retu on your investment. Your precious energy!